To my darling Kaia,
This is my last letter to you this birthday. I know it’s a lot to take in and after I read you these words, we will journey through the meanings together. This is the final thing I have to share for now.
Be humble. Humility will allow you rest. It will free you from striving to be perfect. It will keep you from masquerading as something other. It will dismiss imposters from your spirit and banish pride as you see yourself through God’s eyes. I’ve already told you that you’re beautiful and that God knew exactly what He was doing when He created you. Humility is not thinking less of yourself or some insipid form of insecurity, it is a true account of who you are as God created you.
Don’t ever downplay your beauty, creativity, intellect, or giftings. God created you with all of these and it grieves Him when we reject His creation of us, as something broken or deficient. Humility allows us to recognize them as gifts and to use them to glorify Him. When someone pays you a sincere compliment, accept it graciously, and carry it as a sign that a part of God is shining through you. Likewise, if you are humble and transparent and you see that God is pointing out things in you that need to be dealt with, humility will allow you to quickly repent and seek reconciliation.
Be teachable but discerning. Don’t just accept anything that sounds good, look at the source, weigh it with wisdom, not with pride. Always be willing to be corrected. It will save you so much grief if you remain pliable in God’s hands. Let His grace keep you malleable as He shapes you. Rigid dry clay crumbles to pieces but clay that’s held tight in warm hands remains supple and can form a masterpiece.
You extend grace so freely. When Nehemiah hits you after you’ve built him Duplo towers all day, or when Judah ignores you or hurts your feelings, or when mommy loses her temper and yells, you don’t fester in bitterness. You graciously extend mercy and forgiveness. I pray that I would be as quick to do so as you. Hold onto that, Kaia. It will cost you but the price is worth it. Give grace freely, expecting nothing in return. Knowing your reward is in heaven.
Extend grace, Kaia. Always extend grace. For in this life, we are much forgiven, and we should be quick to forgive. Extend grace when you are misunderstood. Extend grace when you are wronged and it hurts and it costs something of you. Extend grace when you would rather run away or ignore the problem. Extend grace to someone who is broken and hurting and needs to see God. And when you have extended grace and you think the cost too much, allow God to extend His grace to you and refill you with His abundant joy and mercy.
I pray you will have joy on this birthday, that you will be surrounded by love, and that you will treasure the things I have told you in your heart and that as each year passes, they will take root and you will grow in wisdom and maturity.
I love you so much, baby girl. You are a constant joy to me and I’m so proud to be your momma.